Do you feel like our children are being raised in an entitled society, like never before. Everyone seems to want something for nothing. Why work for it if you can get it for free! I also think that children expect their parents to answer “Yes!,” to everything!
I can’t tell you how many times and how many different ways that both Ken and I have told Avery “No!,” to something. Not just one thing, but several things. It’s like he think if he continues to ask, we will change our minds. He ask me, he asks Ken, he asks me again and Ken again. His two big things right now are, “Can I buy a __________________ and I want to take a Ninja Sparring Class. Ken signed him up for Tikwando, against my better judgement. They signed up for a year contract. The year is not up and Avery is looking for every excuse to end the contract so that he can sign up with a different establishment that teaches more fighting and less technique and self control. I have learned over the past 10 years or so that he has a hard time making up his mind and then even a harder time sticking with something. This is a concept that he needs to master and learn now! Not something that we can just let slide. He needs to know that when he agrees to do something, that he needs to stick with it and do it!
I was listening to the Eyer’s this morning on a program. They have written a new book about children and entitlement. Even though this is my 5th of five children, I may need to get the book and read it for ideas on how to teach this child that he is not entitled to anything! Everything we get in this life is a gift! Nothing is as necessity but family and the love we share with one another and our belief in God and the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints.
Nothing on this earth will go with us when we leave this life! All we take with us is the knowledge that we have received while here. When we put emphasis on the THINGS that we want, the THINGS we think we need and should have, we miss out on the bigger picture! We miss out on time with our families learning and growing together!
Work for what you want, work for what you need. No one is entitled just because he thinks he has earned it or thinks he deserves something, because everyone else has it. Well kido, we are not everyone!
Now maybe I can go to sleep!
I had a sister come to me in tears the other day because my mom wasn't goint to pay for her school. Her exact words were 'but mom is the one that wants me to go to school.' This same sibling will pay for her food and clothes, then come for a loan for her utility. I always chlked it up to her being the youngest. And a bit spoiled. But yes. I have noticed a growing trend.
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